I’ve come to see that we apologize for much more than we ought to, and have been thinking about it from a spiritual and philosophical perspective.
I think that saying “I’m sorry” can actually be translated into other things. For instance, someone was trying to pass me on the stairs to my yoga studio today, and she said, “sorry,” as did I, once I noticed her.
But she really meant, I appreciate you letting me by, and I hope I didn’t inconvenience you, and I really meant, I didn’t see you, and I hope I didn’t make you wait too long.
“Sorry” has become such a catch-all word to say that I don’t know if we even notice how often we use the word in place of what we really are thinking.
And I believe women are raised in this society to be much more prone to apologizing than are men. They seem to sort of intrinsically take responsibility for all sorts of things that they have absolutely nothing to do with; they also have a hard time taking their power, and I think are accustomed to feeling that they have to be forgiven for being in a place of strength or authority.
I am working on being much more mindful and aware of when and why I am apologizing, making sure that I am not just acting robotically. The next time I am inclined to say “I’m sorry,” I want to ask myself—am I really sorry? And for what? Because there is a good chance that what I am trying to say could be stated much more in the affirmative and thus bring a stronger and more forward energy to everyone involved.
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My performance schedule changes dynamically, as I book additional “gigs.” Right now, at the time of this post, you can see me entertaining over the next few weeks at the dates, times, and places listed below. To see my most up-to-date schedule, visit my website.
Tuesday, March 13, 2018
Sauf Haus (1216 18th Street NW, Washington, DC 20036)
Wednesday, March 14, 2018
Rhodeside Grill (1836 Wilson Boulevard, Arlington, VA 22201)
Friday, March 16, 2018
Georgetown Piano Bar (3287 M Street NW, Washington, D.C. 20007)