Listening is one of the most powerful things one can do.
Really listening … taking the time to truly hear what another person is saying. Trying to stay out of the way of the words, and not interject our own agenda or pre-conceived notions or assumptions.
I have long practiced “active listening,” when I go into stores, or meet a new person. Instead of assuming that they are going to say “how are you,” I make sure I know exactly what they actually do say. I feel like we do so much unconscious talking with one another, not even necessarily hearing what the other person says. And yes, they probably do say what we assume, but to be active and present in our listening can create that much more of a connected experience for everyone. That much more of a whole and complete energy for all.
One of the things my daughter taught me is how to listen to women. Just listen. Not try to fix, or even necessarily understand. Simply listen and be compassionate and sympathetic and give them space to talk. I know that if more men could learn to do this, their experiences with women would become instantly more rewarding and satisfying for both them and the women in their lives.
And in this way, if we all listen better—actively, consciously, without a pre-made decision about what someone is or isn’t going to say—not only will we have more gratifying exchanges with one another, but we will find our conversations that much more fulfilling as well.
And maybe someone will begin listening to us with the same open ears.
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Monday, August 21, 2017
Boundary Stone (116 Rhode Island Avenue NW, Washington, D.C. 20001)
Tuesday, August 22, 2017
Gypsy Sally’s (3401 K Street NW, Washington, D.C. 20007)
Wednesday, August 23, 2017
Georgetown Piano Bar (3287 M Street NW, Washington, D.C. 20007)